Formalwear for Femme Fatties

I’m FAT.

Not fun-sized. Not cuddly. Not "just big-boned."

I'm fat. I also wear plus-sized clothing. These are facts, not insults.

And before anyone suggests that I “just need to try a new diet” or push some unsolicited medical advice like a recommendation for Ozempic or Wegovy, I invite you to take a moment to reflect—and then read any of Aubrey Gordon’s books: https://www.aubreygordon.net/books

Okay. Now that we’ve cleared out the trolls and well-meaning concern trolls alike, let’s talk about something that actually matters to us femme fatties: formalwear.

Because here’s the truth:

Looking good shouldn’t be reserved for the thin.

Confidence doesn’t come in one size.

And we deserve to show up to weddings, galas, holiday parties, and any other event looking hot as hell.

Photo Credit: Riley West Photography

Why Formalwear Is So Frustrating for Fat Babes

If you’ve ever walked into a department store hoping to find a dress for your friend’s wedding, only to be herded to a sad rack of ill-fitting polyester sacks, you know the feeling. Why is it that plus-size formalwear is either:

• Drapey to the point of looking like a bed sheet

• Weirdly matronly, like we’re all aunties from a soap opera

• Or the same five cold shoulder dresses, again and again and again?

We deserve better. And while the options are still too limited, I’ve found some wins along the way—brands that actually give a damn, styles that flatter instead of hide, and pieces that celebrate our curves, not punish them.

Some of My Favorite Places to Shop for Plus-Size Formalwear

Here’s where I go when I want to look good and feel good:

1. ELOQUII

They’re my go-to for bold statement dresses, structured silhouettes, and actual on-trend pieces in sizes 14–28. Think: bright colors, sequins, structured bodices, and dramatic sleeves. Perfect for galas, weddings, or any event where you want to shut it down.

Pro tip: Their occasionwear section is chef’s kiss—and they often have sales.

2. Kiyonna

Specializing in sizes 10–32, Kiyonna is great for romantic, classic silhouettes. Their wrap dresses are famous for a reason, and they know how to design for fat bodies. Great for weddings, especially if you’re a guest or even a bridesmaid.

Vibe: soft glam, elegant, curve-hugging.

3. Henning (by Universal Standard)

If you want minimalist power btch* vibes—think tailored suiting, clean lines, and luxury fabrics—Henning is the brand. The price point is higher, but the quality and fit are real.

Especially great for femme-presenting folks who want to rock a suit instead of a dress.

4. Azazie & Birdy Grey

These are wedding-party go-tos. Both offer bridesmaid dresses up to size 30+, and with a ton of styles to choose from, you don’t have to settle for something boring or cheap-looking. They even let you customize the hem and straps.

Azazie in particular has a "try at home" option, which is a game changer when you're between sizes.

5. ASOS Curve

Fast fashion, yes—but if you’re in a pinch or looking for something fun and trendy (hello sequins, mesh, cutouts), ASOS Curve has options. Sizes usually go up to 26–28 and the range of styles is honestly impressive.

Warning: their sizing runs UK/EU, so double-check your size chart.

6. Torrid (when they're not being weird)

Torrid is hit-or-miss, but when it hits? It hits. Look for their occasionwear or “special collections” rather than the everyday stuff. They’ve done wedding collabs and formal capsule lines that are worth scoping out.

Bonus: built-in bras or supportive bustlines if you're blessed up top.

7. Elhoffer Design

Elhoffer Design, a Los Angeles–based online clothing brand, is a small business creating fashion for plus-size bodies, by plus-size people. Their pieces typically run from XS–3XL, with select styles extending up to 4XL. Every design is crafted to be both beautiful and comfortable—made to flatter a variety of body types while scaling effortlessly from casual to formal wear.

And the best part? Nearly all of their dresses, skirts, and bottoms come with spacious, functional pockets—because style should never mean sacrificing practicality.

Tips for Dressing Your Body, Not Hiding It

Let’s be clear: the problem is not your body. The problem is a fashion industry that still acts like fat people don’t go to fancy events.

Here are a few reminders and hacks when shopping for formalwear:

• Don't size up to "hide" yourself. Clothes that fit well look better than oversized ones.

• Shapewear is optional. You don't owe anyone a flat stomach.

• Tailoring can transform a garment. Don’t be afraid to hem, nip, or adjust a piece.

• Lean into the drama. Fat folks in dramatic sleeves, tulle skirts, bold colors, or glitter? Perfection.

• Shop in advance. Options are more limited, so give yourself time to find what feels good.

• Wear what makes you feel hot. Whether that's a floor-length gown, a velvet suit, or a crop-top & skirt combo.

For My Queer & Gender-Expansive Babes

This post says “femme fatties,” but let’s be real—gender expression doesn’t always equal dress-wearing. If you’re femme-presenting or nonbinary and want to go formal without the frill, there are dope options for suits, tuxes, and jumpsuits out there too.

Try:

• Bindle & Keep (custom suiting for all bodies)

• Wildfang

• Sharpe Suiting

• Universal Standard's suiting line

You deserve to feel like you in whatever formalwear you choose.

TL;DR

Fat people deserve to look and feel amazing in formalwear. We deserve fashion that fits, that flatters, and that celebrates our bodies—not hides them.

You don't have to settle for the one sad dress at the back of the rack. You can show up to weddings, parties, work events, and your own dang life looking like a whole meal. Whether you're into femme fantasy, glam goth, sharp tailoring, or ethereal princess vibes—there are options for us.

And if no one’s told you lately? You’re allowed to take up space. You’re allowed to be visible.You’re allowed to be beautiful, right now, as you are.

Need help styling for an upcoming event, wedding, or shoot? I love helping fellow femme fatties find pieces that make them feel like magic.

DM me or reach out—I got you.

With sparkle and sass,

Jill